Why do children love to “destruct”?
Xiao Zong’s situation is what children call damaging behaviors. Children have such behaviors. Parents don’t have to be nervous. We may wish to know this behavior with children psychologists.
Use “destruction” to explore the unknown world. A three- to five-year-old child begins to contact and know everything about the outside world. For what he encounters, he uses touch, taste, smell, and occasionally fall.Method to see what kind of response it will produce.
If your child is at this age, please store the things of the heron at home, give him some safe household items, or buy some toys that are resistant to falling and let him study it carefully!
At this time, parents should slowly guide their children to establish the concept of what can be touched and what should not be touched.
For example, he can play a small ball and play with a large bucket, but he cannot use a laptop as a toy, otherwise there will be big trouble.
At the same time, parents can give the child some combination toys and encourage him to try to combine different shapes.
In order to avoid accidents, the children’s hands should be less angular and of good quality.
Countermeasure: Let the “curious baby” be a repairman. If the child is curious to know the causes of various phenomena, he always wants to find out what is installed in the seat that keeps turning.
Is there really a talking man on the TV?
Then, when you repair the things in your home, you might as well get him involved.
You can dismantle the discarded objects in your house in front of him. The non-dangerous hands-on part can be operated by “Curious Baby”.
Don’t blame the “clumsy” Explorer three- to five-year-olds. The coordination of hands and brains is not very coordinated.
In the process of touching and exploring, he will produce many “dangerous actions” due to the incoordination of hands and brain, such as accidentally overturning the glass on the table or breaking the glass bottle.
Actually, he didn’t mean it, you should be more patient, you can blame him, but the purpose is to let him know what is dangerous.
Countermeasure: Let the “baby in trouble” make mistakes to the child after the accident, and you can make him responsible for his actions within his ability.
If the glass is knocked over, let the child dry the table with a rag. The glass bottle is broken and let him bring you a broom and trowel.
It is better for a child to heal afterwards than to blame him severely. After all, he is not intentional.
The child cannot control his “brute force”. The child also has an attempt to use power. Because he does not know how much strength should be used to accomplish something, the drawer will be pulled to the floor and the thing will be broken.And other phenomena.
This is also his normal behavior, a way for children to learn to get along with the outside world.
In short, what you should do about your child’s behavior is not punishment, but let him understand what he has done and others will praise, and what he will do will cause harm.
In this way, children can understand the general social norms, the limits of what everyone does and the rules they should follow.
Countermeasure: Play “Gentle Game” with “Barbaric Baby” If the child has a lot of strength to pull the drawer, it may be better to let him pull it again slowly.
Letting your child try to use his strength from light to heavy will also enable him to learn how to control his own power, but it will do much less harm to the surrounding environment.
He uses “destruction” to “protest”. If you find your child has destructive behavior, you should pay more attention to his recent movements.
Maybe the reason for his “damaging” emotions is that you were too harsh on him.
Sometimes, the child’s external destructive behavior is also a manifestation of his inner distress.
Maybe the child just feels lonely, or maybe he just wants to get his mother’s attention.
Countermeasure: Talk to your “protest baby” about the endless energy of children between three and five years old. Behind the child’s good “destruction” is likely to hide a desire to explore.
You should provide your child with a good space for activities, especially our only child, let him play with his neighbors’ companions, and participate in group games on holidays.
Mom and Dad may wish to talk to the child to find out what he has troubled recently or what he needs.